Rivers of Time


Yasmeen Aftab Ali

Rivers of TimeLife changes. The actors that play a role in your life change. As you grow older, and hopefully grow up; you realize this is not a universal phenomenon. People grow old-not necessarily grow up. If one is lucky enough to do so, there is a quiet sadness for those who do not. Their stunted personal growth hurts them, as well as others- in more ways than one. Unfortunately, they may be the only ones who fail to realize it.

As the river of time flows by; gently but surely, it changes the direction of lives of many. That unsure-ness of direction is the one thing we can be sure about. Those who grow up, support each other emotionally and morally. They form the bulwark of one’s life one rests against.Such people are blessed and form support for each other, giving ease to each other in rough patches.

Maureen Jenner rightly states in her piece for a blog, “Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional.” Age has nothing to do with maturity. It has to do with the internal and external influences that effects one’s personality. Growing up means a lot of different things to different people. What characteristics forms the make up of a ‘grown-up’ person and what does not? For one thing; being grown up means life is not all about you. Its also about others. Their feelings. Their hurts. Their turbulence. Being grown up means where not to cross a line. Being grown up means to respect feelings and give space to others to recover from a hurt. Being grown up means not meddling in matters that can inflict more pain and may lead to more hurt. Being grown up, above all means developing new wings of dignity.

As the rivers of time flow by; gently but surely, more people grow old than growing up.

Herein lies the tragedy of Mankind.




10 responses »

  1. Very True my friend “Growing up is Optional” that’s why you have many wondering moments in your life. And this concept of rivers of time is scary too. At times the roaring River takes away all the precious moments hardly achieved and sometimes the calmness of water brings in nostalgia of waters gone by. But at the end a simple lesson keeps you right on the track that “Life goes on”
    Have a blessed day.

  2. A beautiful piece… A simple concept, yet one of the most far-fetched… It is better that we all realize that should we chose to grow up or just grow old, the river has been and will keep on flowing… Do we go with the flow of the water or do we guide the river’s flow is our call… I just love the ending YAA, growing up means ‘developing new wings of dignity’.

  3. Strongly agreed there is no relation between age and mental growth some time’s 50 year men mental maturity is less then 10 years old boy. Cheers no need to be depressed it Happens when people try to hide them self from there time files

  4. I am 82 and all the time the child in me has been growing bigger and bigger, until now when I take delight in juvenile things, jokes, cartoons etc and never watch grown-up movies which I find pretentious, badly done and imponderable. Am I perenially immature?——————————–

  5. “The trick is growing up without growing old.” said Casey Stengel, the only way to savour life is to stay childlike while adding years. Enjoyed reading your perspective. As always well written 🙂

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